I asked one of my clients who was experiencing severe tension in her body to breathe and exhale with an intent to connect with the sensation of contact with her bones. As she did this and commented of feeling her sitting bones, I noticed her muscle tension level dropped a bit, but I could see her shoulders still elevated. We both know this temporary relaxation wouldn’t last.
An image came to me of falling in a dream, the terror of hitting the ground and dying. This falling experience is a common in the dream state and most people wake up from the dream before they hit the ground.
But what happens when we touch the ground– both in our dreams and waking? If a child anticipates you are going to drop them (and not catch them), their whole body tenses. Likewise, if a person can’t feel her bones touching the
ground, how can she completely relax and trust her weight? What I have found is that really good contact with the ground actually tells us we are alive and OK. There is nowhere to fall.